4 DIY Alzheimer’s Friendly Home Modifications – Guest Post by Mike Good

4 DIY Alzheimer’s Friendly Home Modifications – Guest Post by Mike Good

As we grow older, we start to discover that our homes no longer meet our physical needs as smoothly as when we were younger. Stairs become harder to climb, we trip on transitions that never impeded us before or the lighting seems dull, making it harder to read.   It becomes important to keep our changing needs in mind anytime we do a home modification. Also, many of us will find the need to move an older loved one into our home, some of whom may have Alzheimer’s or another dementia.   The unique needs and challenges posed by having Continue reading

How Long Should Grief Last?

How Long Should Grief Last?

It's been 243 days. That's 5829 hours... exactly 349,768 minutes. How long should grief last? Should I be moving on by now? Is the past in the past? For those of you who will be experiencing grief in the future, or those of you in the throes of grief let me encourage you. Don't put it off. Don't avoid it. Don't wish it away.   It's part of life. Does it hurt? Yes. Does it go away? Yes. Eventually. Sort of. If you allow yourself, you will eventually only focus on the good moments and let the painful ones fade. Just don't dwell. If you dwell, you will get depressed and it Continue reading

The Pepper Party – A {DIY} Non-Traditional Funeral

The Pepper Party – A {DIY} Non-Traditional Funeral

The Pepper Party - a Funeral Alternative  Pepper Party: pep·per /ˈpepər/ par·ty /ˈpärdē/ n. 1. a. A ceremony or group of ceremonies held in honor of Pepper, a mom, grams, and meemaw. A non-funeral in celebration of life for the benefit of those left behind.   Be a rebel with a cause - do things your way, do it yourself and thumb your nose at tradition - change the rules for your family.   Sometimes DIYing is the best way to care for your family.   Let me show you what we did, but Continue reading

12 Ways to Support a Failing Parent + Free Psalm 91 Word Art

12 Ways to Support a Failing Parent + Free Psalm 91 Word Art

It's Coming - Get Prepared {scroll to the end for the free Psalm 91 Word Art}  Most will experience one or more parent's decline in health, whether it be mental, physical or both. You can't be 100% prepared, but perhaps my 12 tips borne from personal experience can help make your journey easier.   When it comes your turn, I hope you will be able to say, "I got this."   I'll wait while you go grab some coffee - this is a long one...   {1} When Things Get Tough... Watch Continue reading

Life After Loss – Is Closure Possible?

Life After Loss – Is Closure Possible?

Is Closure Possible? Is Closure Necessary? When you're charged with carrying out someone's wishes, sometimes you need to throw tradition out the window. My last DIY for my mom was to throw a Pepper Party and lay her to rest in a way contrary to tradition. (See links to this series below if you're a newbie here - it would probably be a good idea to start from the very beginning, it's a very nice place to start...)   My mom had always told me that when it was her time to go, to...   dig a hole out back and bury Continue reading

5 Ways to Survive a Loss – With No Regrets

5 Ways to Survive a Loss – With No Regrets

Now What? How do we survive a loss with no regrets?     The days sitting at the hospital and hospice house are past.   The preparations to lay my mother to rest are done.   We've had our friend and family get-togethers. My last child has left to go back home.   We're back to work and life goes on.   When your world stops, everyone else's keeps spinning. It's hard to jump back on. December 23, 2014, a little over two weeks ago, My mom Continue reading

Mother-in-law Apartment Reveal

Mother-in-law Apartment Reveal

Today was graduation day for my mom. She stepped through the gates of heaven at 12:23 this morning. God is good. Can I say that again? God is good. His grace is sufficient. I thought it fitting that on this day, on this my DIY blog, that I share with you the before and after pictures of her apartment. This one is for you mom...   We bought our quad level home two years ago after nearly 2 years of searching for a home in the country with a yard for our grandkids and a MIL apartment for my mom. It was in rough shape, but we Continue reading

No Christmas Home Tour Here

No Christmas Home Tour Here

  This Christmas season is different for our family this year. We are a family in crisis. There will be no chestnuts roasting on our open fire this year. Normally I would be writing a post about our Christmas Home Tour complete with staged pictures of my home in the middle of Christmas celebration. (Last year's Christmas Home Tour) It’s what we do as DIY bloggers. We decorate and then share it. I had it all planned. I did manage to get my tree up and most of our gifts wrapped.   Then crisis Continue reading